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Insecurity and Judgments: Writing Hiatus

I almost missed ANOTHER month of the IWSG! But I’m posting during a break in psychotherapy clients.

Thank you to Ninja Alex for developing this supportive author meme.

I’ve been embroiled in some good stuff with my psychologist career lately, so writing/blogging has taken a back seat. My fourth novel has been under contract for a while with Omnific Publishing, and I can’t wait to start with the edits. I finally started writing my next novel — a New Adult romance with sports and politics — but I only have about 500 words so far.

I could get really insecure about this hiatus in writing, saying things like:

“I should have started another novel by now.”

“The NA genre is hopping and I should strike while the iron’s hot.”

“Maybe I’m being lazy.”

But I don’t think these judgments will help anything. Instead, I’ll use the NONJUDGMENTALLY mindfulness skill. According to Marsha Linehan, Ph.D., the nonjudgmentally skill is:

* See but DON’T EVALUATE. Take a nonjudgmental stance. Just the facts. Focus on the “what”, not the “good” or “bad”, the “terrible” or “wonderful”, the “should” or “should not”.

* UNGLUE YOUR OPINIONS from the facts, from the “who, what, when, and where”.

* ACCEPT each moment (this doesn’t mean you like it or agree with it).

 To practice this skill, I’ll examine the facts, like “I feel anxious that I’m not writing frequently right now” or “The psycho part of my psycho author career has needed more time recently”.

Have you experienced an ebb and flow in your own writing career? How do you deal with judgments and insecurity?

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The Liebster Award…Yah!

Danke to awesome author Nicki Elson for bestowing the Liebster Award upon me. LIEBSTER is a German word meaning sweetheart or beloved person. Nicki is indeed a LIebster!

This award is given to bloggers by bloggers and gives glimpses into our lives. We give 11 fun facts about ourselves, answer 11 questions, pass the award on to 11 bloggers and then ask 11 new questions.

Okay, sadly I have to decrease the number from 11 to 5. I’ve had a really long day at work and I still need to do some cleaning for book club tomorrow night.

5 Fun Facts about Me:

1. I speak a secret language called “ive”. We spoke it on my college swim team. Here are those same two sentences in ive: Ivi spiveak iva sivicrivet livanguivage civalled ivive. Wive spivoke ivit ivon mivy civollivege swivim tiveam.

2. I’d like to get a dog, but I don’t know if I’m ready for the responsibility.

3. My friend Eric and I judge those who don’t understand swimming etiquette at our pool. We’re harsh!

4. Almost all of my past boyfriends have turned out to be gay. I like the unavailable types.

5. My toes are as long as some people’s fingers. Flipper feet!

Questions from Nicki:

1. Les Mis or Sweeney Todd?
Les Mis fo shizzle! Jean Val Jean is one of my fave characters.

2. What are the toppings on your dream hamburger?
Pickles, cheese, lettuce, tomato, mayo, mustard, ketchup

3. What city (that you’ve never visited) do you most want to visit?
Barcelona, Spain

4. Favorite city (that you have visited).
Chicago! (duh)

5. You can only choose one: would you rather write a book that’s a best seller or a book that’s highly acclaimed?
Best seller. I’m shallow that way. And “highly acclaimed” is so subjective. I’d rather write a book that makes ME proud and that evokes intense emotion in readers.

Now I get to pick 5 bloggers and ask 5 new questions. I choose (and if you’ve already been tagged for this award, consider your “obligations” fulfilled):


Your new questions:

1. What’s your favorite romantic couple? (stealing this one from Nicki)
2. Briefs or boxers?
3. When you became an author, whose support or lack thereof surprised you the most?
4. What do you listen to on the car radio?
5. What’s the kindest thing somebody did for you?

Please stop by to let me know when you’ve posted your answers because I definitely want to read them!

The Liebster Rules: 1. The Liebster Award is given to bloggers by bloggers. 2. Each blogger should post 11 facts about himself / herself. 3. Each blogger should answer the 11 questions that are asked by the nominating blogger. 4. Choose 11 new bloggers to nominate for the Award and link to them in the post. 5. Create 11 new questions for your nominees. 6. Go back to their pages and tell them they’ve been nominated. 7. No tag backs.

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Breathe.

How have you felt since the Boston Marathon terrorist attack?

I’ve felt horror, disgust, rage, and sadness. Right now I feel numb.

And this is from miles away. I can’t imagine how I would feel if I’d been on ground zero, witnessing the carnage.

But I can imagine what it’s like to face trauma such as rape, abuse, accidents, and crime. I hear it from my psychotherapy clients all too often.

Survivors of trauma like bombings or abuse may develop Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, a clinical syndrome I detail HERE in my Psycho Author series. Quite a few of my characters have struggled to heal from PTSD.

What’s a simple tool to help anyone who’s endured a traumatic event? BREATHE.

When we get scared, our breathing changes, becoming quicker and shallower, or stopping for a moment. Such changes only serve to increase our panic and tension.

Simply paying attention to our breath can help calm us when we’re feeling stressed. But deep breathing, aka diaphragmatic breathing or belly breathing, is even more helpful.

1) Take a few moments to notice your breath. Breathe in through your nose and out your mouth. Let your body’s natural rhythm of breathing gently become slower and deeper, but still easy and relaxed.

2) Let that breath go deep into your belly. Place one hand on your chest and one hand on your belly (below your belly button). Keep the hand on your chest still, while pushing out the hand on your belly with air.

3) The diaphragm is the muscle lining beneath your lungs. Feel the diaphragm push down as you inhale.

I hope that noticing your breath helps you deal with the multitude of feelings from the Boston Marathon or other traumatic events.

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BLURBS!

Why do authors complain about writing summaries of their novels for the book jacket?
Because it’s TOUGH. Waaaah!

A good blurb captures the voice of the novel. It entices the reader without giving too much away.

We’re starting to edit my fourth novel On Best Behavior (The Conduct Series #3), and we need the book blurb for a press release.

Here was my first effort at writing the blurb:

On Best Behavior is the third and final book in The Conduct Series—romantic suspense with a psychological twist. Following a pardon by the Governor of Illinois, ex-cons Sophie Taylor and Grant Madsen are free to pursue their love. But planning a wedding is never easy, especially when the Russian Mafia want you dead.
Grant fights the forces that have hurt his loved ones by working undercover for the FBI to infiltrate the Russian Mafia in Chicago. Sophie dives into swimming with Grant’s nephew Ben, and into a career as a psychology professor. This time it’s Ben’s turn to heal through therapy sessions with Dr. Hunter Hayes.
Too bad the Russians aren’t their only threat. Grant’s father Enzo Barberi discovers it was Grant who thwarted his plan to break out of prison. Enzo possesses an overdeveloped sense of vengeance and ****. It’s unclear who will kill Grant first—the Russians or his Italian family—until Sophie scrambles to save her fiancé. Can love win over evil?


The good news is that blurb writing does get easier with practice. The bad news is that this blurb felt disjointed. So I turned to my trusty editor Jessica Royer Ocken for help. Her first suggestion was to eliminate the clause represented by **** because it gave too much away. Whoops!

Here is what Jessica came up with, which I like much better:

Following a pardon by the Governor of Illinois, ex-cons Sophie Taylor and Grant Madsen are finally free to pursue their love and the life that lies ahead for them. But planning a wedding is never easy—especially when the Russian Mafia wants you dead.
Nevertheless, On Best Behavior—the third and final book in The Conduct Series—finds our favorite couple moving forward, despite the odds. Grant now fights the forces that have hurt his loved ones by working undercover for the FBI, and he has infiltrated the Russian Mafia in Chicago. Sophie dives into swimming with Grant’s nephew, Ben, and into her career as a psychology professor. Thankfully, now it’s Ben’s turn to heal through therapy sessions with Dr. Hunter Hayes.
With so many things going right for Grant and Sophie, it’s too bad the Russians aren’t their only threat. When Grant’s father, Enzo Barberi, discovers his own son thwarted his plan to break out of prison, his overdeveloped sense of vengeance flares to life. As Sophie scrambles to save her fiancé, it’s impossible to say who will kill Grant first—the Russians or his Italian family. Can love triumph over evil? Are hard work and a pledge to be on best behavior ever enough? 
Once again, author Jennifer Lane brings a harrowing tale of romantic suspense with a psychological twist, and it’s sure to leave readers breathless. 

Authors, how difficult do YOU find the blurb writing process? Readers, what types of blurbs are your favorite?
Nocover-blank-133x176   And soon we’ll work on a book cover, too. 🙂
On Best Behavior

by
Jennifer Lane

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New Adult Sleepover Weekend!

Do you love New Adult books? Join us in Savannah, Georgia for a NA book convention December 6-8!


We’re gearing up for a weekend of fun with the NEW ADULT SLEEPOVER WEEKEND. I’m a featured author and can’t wait to meet readers and writers in this exciting genre.

For those sitting on the fence about attending and securing their spot early… we have a tipping point!
If you register by June 15th we will enter you in a special drawing to win one of 5 special VIP baskets for you and your roommates to enjoy! So what’s in the VIP baskets?
Just like they do at awards ceremonies, VIP’s get perks! For NASW the winners of these baskets will be treated to entering their room where they will find a huge basket of goodies, including waters, a bottle of bubbly, snacks, chocolate, goodies from area merchants in Savannah(anything from merchandise to gift cards), Some great bath stuff and of course, candles! Everything you need to make an evening of reading that much more special!
And to sweeten the deal, every VIP winner also gets an extra 5 entries in your welcome prize event, where attending authors will be giving away tons of awesome prizes, including meals with them, drinks at the bar and other awesome things!
And guess what? Several of our featured authors have donated books for these baskets! So not only are you treated to the NASW royal treatment, but you’re going to get awesome books outta the deal too!
So what are you waiting for? A weekend with awesome NA authors, parties, prizes, books and memories that will last forever!

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Birthday Bash with Splash: Day Five

Thank you to divine author Nicki Elson for coining the title above!

Well, the party’s almost over. *cries* My gratitude extends to all the lovely bloggers who hosted and to all of the awesome guests for the Streamline Book Birthday Bash. I hope you win a copy of Streamline!

Here are today’s hosts, and you can enter the giveaway at any of their blogs:

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Actin’ Up With Books blog

Author Trisha Wolfe’s YA Bound blog

My Bookish Fairy Tale blog

Author Nicki Elson’s Not-So-Deep-Thoughts blog

A special shout-out to Ava from Book Nerds Anonymous for casting these actors in the lead roles for Streamline. I love both of her choices!

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Leo                                    Audrey

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Hoppy Easter Eggstravaganza Blog Hop

Thanks to Kathy from I Am A Reader, Not A Writer and Alethea from Read Now Sleep Later for hosting this Easter Giveaway Hop!

A friend invited me to his house for Easter dinner, and I’m having a blast finding fun Easter desserts on Pinterest. I tested the recipe for Coconut Macaroon Nutella Nests:

Check out my Pinterest Easter board HERE

I’m giving away one Jennifer Lane ebook of your choice:

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Bunny hop over to these participating blogs!

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Streamline Birthday Day Four

Streamline‘s book birthday party has been rocking due to awesome hosts and book-themed treats like Olive Garden breadsticks (carbo-loading for swimmers), grape juice (this is Young Adult/New Adult after all), and oxycontin (but who said teenagers follow the law?)

Would you like to see the actors I envision as the main characters? Check out my Streamline Pinterest board HERE.

Make sure to stop by these blogs to keep the party going today!

Thursday 3/28
Author Carol Oates’ blog
Book Nerds Anonymous blog
Author Hannah Downing’s blog
Author Kyra Lennon’s Write Here, Write Now blog

The giveaway has three days left–get on it if you haven’t entered yet. 😉

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Book Birthday Bash Day Three

Streamline turns one-year-old this week! We’re celebrating with a giveaway of one signed print copy and three ebooks. You can enter at any participating blog.

Here are today’s party hosts!

Wednesday 3/27
Books, DIY’s, and Randomness blog
Life of a Total Book Nerd blog
Christina’s Book Review blog
Author Elisa Dane blog 


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Nicki Elson’s Divine Temptation

It’s a special day for my pub sister and friend Nicki Elson–the release of her novel Divine Temptation!

Isn’t that cover divine? I loved Nicki’s first novel, Three Daves, a sexy 80’s college romp (see my review).  Check out the blurb for Divine Temptation:

Maggie Brock has everything under control. Even her divorce, though painful at the time, only registers as a minor blip in her carefully constructed universe. Her life in Prairie Oaks has once again returned to a smooth, predictable pace…until an angel shows up in her bedroom.


The angel is just as bewildered as Maggie about why he’s been sent to her, but their unsuccessful efforts to gain understanding of the mystery fade to the background as their relationship grows. Soon, Maggie’s biggest problem becomes the angel himself, as her feelings for him develop into something less than saintly.


While Maggie struggles to keep her desires pure, a nefarious being lurks in the shadows of Prairie Oaks, watching and waiting for the opportunity to fulfill his ambiguous purpose. Preying on her conflicted emotions, the demon manipulates her at every opportunity, but the one to deliver Maggie directly into his hands is the last person she’d expect.



Get it HERE.

It’s also Day Two of the Streamline Book Birthday Bash. Head over to these blogs for reviews, interviews, and giveaways.

Tuesday 3/26
Paulette’s Papers blog
Author Cherie Colyer’s blog
Mich’s Book Reviews blog 
Author Kelsey Ketch’s Book Nook blog