Happy November, writers! Join us for the Insecure Writers Support Group, a monthly blog hop that’s the brainchild of Alex Cavanaugh.

I’m thrilled to co-host today along with my teammates Jenni Enzor, Renee Scattergood, Rebecca Douglass, Lynn Bradshaw, and Melissa Maygrove!
Today’s question: When you began writing, what did you imagine your life as a writer would be like? Were you right, or has this experience presented you with some surprises along the way?
I started on a lark with zero expectations about life as a “writer“. The word felt pretentious and unfamiliar to me. It was simply a delight to create fictional worlds shaped by my characters’ whims. The words poured out of me without much knowledge of structure or point-of-view.
Three years later, in 2010, when a small publisher took a chance on my debut novel, I experienced a mix of imposter syndrome along with incredible support from online friends, authors, and readers. I bounced from envisioning “best-seller” status to feeling like the heel of the shoe worn by those best-selling authors.
Surprises have ambushed me from quite a few corners, like:
- Finding my own voice. I used to compare myself unfavorably to other authors, and sometimes I still do. But I heard somewhere that NOBODY writes like you do, and that sentiment has stuck with me. There aren’t many psychologists/ authors (psycho authors) out there, and probably none who share my obsession with swimming, volleyball, Pinterest food creations, and curse words!
- I will survive if readers don’t like my books. Reading preferences are so subjective. I’ve found that writing is just like school, work, sports, and relationships in that I perform better by focusing on the process (writing what I want to write, learning the craft) instead of the outcome (reviews and sales).
- I always knew I could persevere. Swimming thousands (millions?) of laps while staring at a black line on the pool bottom, as well as my neurotic need for achievement, strengthened my sense of grit. But I never predicted that I would publish ten novels!
Which brings me to my NEW RELEASE on 11/14/25: Low Water!
Haunted by the past. Healing in the present. Hoping for a better future. And telling cringey dad jokes along the way.
I shared my blurb last month, and it’s available on Amazon as a pre-order. Have you ever felt hopeless about healing after tragic events? I used to. But then I learned a powerful treatment called cognitive processing therapy, and I want everyone with PTSD (real or fictional) to start the therapy, stat. CPT inspired me to return to writing after a three-year hiatus.
Two questions for you, writers:
- Would you be willing to publicize Low Water around the time of release day (Friday 11/14/25) on your blog or social media?
- If you’d like a special blog post about trauma (sudden death, domestic violence, etc.), cognitive processing therapy for PTSD, writing about sports, or a topic of your choice, please leave your email address in a comment or email me at jenniferlanebooks at gmail.
- If you want to share a social media post, here are options:
- Two lives marked by trauma. One chance to rediscover hope. New Release LOW WATER. Psychological suspense. https://www.amazon.com/Low-Water-Jennifer-Lane-ebook/dp/B0FYV32BV4
- Trauma survivors, there’s hope! Combine the thrill of competitive swimming with the power of cognitive processing therapy to heal PTSD. Pre-order “Low Water” by Jennifer Lane now and rediscover strength. https://www.amazon.com/Low-Water-Jennifer-Lane-ebook/dp/B0FYV32BV4
- Trauma survivors, listen up! I’m Jennifer Lane, psychologist & author. My new ebook LOW WATER reveals how cognitive processing therapy can heal PTSD. Pre-order now and rediscover hope. https://tinyurl.com/2vbzx668
- What are the pros/cons of publishing the ebook on KDP Select vs. wide? Ronel Janse van Vuuren helped me try to figure out Draft 2 Digital to publish wide my novella earlier this year, but I’m still unfamiliar with the site compared to Amazon. (I’m trying to publish the paperback on D2D and don’t know how to set the margins to 8.5 x 5.5 while using my own interior pdf, for example.) I’ve had all my books in KDP Select for years, which might make more sense for romance novels, but my new release has only a side element of romance.
This insecure writer thanks you for stopping by!

Congrats on the new release! I’d love a post on domestic violence. You have my email 🙂
Your PDF has to be in the required size already if you want to publish on D2D print. So, use the KDP print template for the size you want, format your book therein (save as) and then turn it into a PDF (save as PDF) then upload to D2D.
I hope that helps 🙂
Ronel visiting for IWSG day The Truth of the Writer’s Life
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Thank you for the help, Ronel. We realized we had the wrong size interior, gah. I can finally order author copies on Amazon now that it’s fixed!
I’ll work on a post about the cycle of violence that helps explain why women stay longer than they want in abusive relationships. 😦
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We’re similar – I like my career and my success with my novels is just a bonus.
Be happy to share your new release! And can offer a short guest post spot for my December IWSG post.
Thanks for co-hosting!
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Thank you for all your hard work with IWSG over the years, Alex–who knows if I would’ve written my new release without the support of this awesome group. I haven’t gotten around to an IWSG post about trauma, but I hope to one day now that I’ve finished my book.
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Hi,
I understand about your surprises. I had a lot of them and still do but not as often.
I believe you have my email address. I would love to share one of your posts on my social media. Two Lives…or One chance to rediscover hope.
All the best.
Shalom shalom
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That’s true about surprises declining as we gain more writing experience. Hopefully we won’t feel so unsurprised in the future that we become jaded, ha. I appreciate your support, Pat! I just realized that I can see commenters’ email addresses on my wordpress site.
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I’ve never had a problem if people don’t like my stories either. There are a lot of stories I don’t like. My problem is the people who think that you’re a bad writer because they didn’t like your story. You can dislike a story written by great authors. I’ve even disliked stories from some of my favourite authors. It just really depends on the story (and I’m a bit picky).
Congrats on your upcoming new release! Hope it goes well.
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So true, Renee. There are many books I don’t like either, sometimes for random reasons the author could never anticipate. And it’s rare for me to love EVERY book even by my favorite authors. Thank you for co-hosting and for the positive vibes! 😀
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Thanks for co-hosting, Congrats on your new book. Count me in, for promotion, if I can do anything.
Trauma ? Currently re-reading The Devil You Know. Dr Gwen Adshead and her Reith lectures on violence.
Absolutely no personal details, but I know the territory, probably too well.
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Thanks for the help and the book recommendation, Esther! I hadn’t heard of The Devil You Know, but it looks interesting (and maybe chilling). We humans can indeed be a mix of cruelty and compassion. Though I rarely read nonfiction, I also enjoyed The Body Keeps the Score.
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Thanks for co-hosting today. Congrats on your book release. I could share about it in my Follower News on 11/17/2025. Email me if you’re interested. And yes, swimming helps develop perseverance, which you also need for writing.
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Thank you, Natalie! You offer great support to authors across the blogoverse. ❤
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Focus on the process. Excellent advice! I’d be happy to help however I can, all but with the formatting. Email me whatever you’d like me to share, on blog or social media. My email address is elizabethseckman(at)ymail(dot)com
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Thank you, Elizabeth! We have figured out the formatting problem, fortunately. May we both have a wonderful writing process in the future.
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I’m with you, I didn’t have expectations, I just wrote because I liked to do it. It’s best to stay that way because then any successes are even more of a wonderful surprise!
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I agree–any writing success is an added bonus, Nick.
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“I will survive if readers don’t like my books.“
I think all writers need to print this out and post it near their keyboard. Maybe add: It’s impossible to please everyone, so don’t try.
Congrats on the upcoming release! Your psychology training must give you incredible insight when you write.
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I sure have tried to please everyone in the past, Melissa. This new release is very therapy-heavy–it’ll be interesting to see the response. Thanks for co-hosting and stopping by!
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Focus on the process is such great advice, because the process is the only part you have full control over.
I’m so glad you were able to find healing, and your new book sounds interesting. Good luck with the release!
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Hi, Janet, I hope the process goes well for both of us. I’ve been fortunate not to endure a big T Trauma a la PTSD, but I have witnessed many clients heal from PTSD with the powerful CPT treatment. Thanks for the positive wishes! I enjoy your humorous posts.
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What a positive uplifting journey!
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Thank you, Jacqui! ❤
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I’d be willing to help out with promotion. samantha at samanthabryant dot com
As for your other questions, I’m hoping to find out! I released my first indie book (they’ve all been small press traditionally published up to now) in October and am working on three more for spring. I’m going wide because I don’t trust Amazon to be a good business partner and I don’t want to be beholden to them.
@samanthabwriter from Balancing Act and Dangerous When Bored
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Thank you, Samantha. I considered Jennifer Bryant as my pen name, but I went with Lane since it’s similar to my middle name and represents a swimming lane. I was in your shoes in 2014 after 4 novels released by a small publisher, and I’ve been pleased by self-publishing since. I love the creative control. I think it might be a genre thing in terms of enrolling in KDP Select–I heard one romance author say that romance readers consume sometimes one book a DAY and can’t afford to buy ebooks if they’re not in KU. My new release has only a little romance, so I might try wide for this one.
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It’s good not to think that “everybody’s” going to like what you write. So unrealistic.
Congratulations on your book. I can give it a shout-out on FB if you’d like.
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Yes, my former people-pleasing self was quite unrealistic in her expectations. I appreciate any shout-out or yodel!
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Yippee! Congrats on book 10! I’m not the most active online anymore — chasing other big things, but I am so excited for you! I will have to grab a copy after the release!
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You’re out there living your theater life, Crystal! Thanks for the positive vibes.
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Congratulations on your new book.
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Спасибо, Olga!
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Thanks for co-hosting this month. I just had a conversation with someone who explained to me what CPT was. Sounds fascinating! I wish you all the best with your release.
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What a coincidence, Toi. I hadn’t heard much about CPT before 2019, but it has changed the way I practice. Thank you for the good wishes. ❤
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Hi, Jennifer! Congratulations on your latest book. I’d be happy to give you a shout out on November 14th post. Also, I’m doing an IWSG Facebook post on New & Promo this Friday. I’ll mention your book there. I have no clue about your second question. 😂. Thanks for co-hosting today. I hope you are having fun!
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Thank you, Louise! Do you need anything else from me?
Co-hosting is fun and enlightening! 🙂
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Thank you for introducing me to CPT. The video explained a lot in simple terms. Thanks for co-hosting
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I’m impressed by that CPT video, Lynn. Plus, white-board videos always hold my interest.
If you want to learn more about CPT, there’s a podcast called Ten Sessions that includes recordings of a woman’s experience with CPT.
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I got myself overbooked for the first Wednesday of the month so I’m not doing very well commenting on anyone else’s blog posts. Your blog post was the first to come into my email this morning and I’m just getting to it now. I like the example you shared about focusing on the process of writing, not the outcomes, and finding your own voice, you alone will write the way you write, no one else.
Thank you for sharing. I found it encouraging.
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I had a packed day at work, so I’m just catching up now. I’m pleased you found my post encouraging. 🙂
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Congratulations, Jennifer! All the things you learned really resonated with me, especially how swimming helped you preserve. I was a swimmer in high school and those long distance races sure built my muscle for pressing through difficulties.
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Swimmers rock, Jenni! What were your events? I did IM, breast, back, and the free relays.
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So cool! I did IM, the free relays, and the 500 free. I was never fast enough for the back and breast, although those are my favorite strokes.
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Yay for variety of swim strokes, Jenni!
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I’ve always seen you as a strong woman and strong writer. Congrats on your latest. 🙂
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Thank you, Anna! I see myself as a strong woman too. 🙂 As for writing, I still have a lot to learn, and that’s part of the fun.
I see you as a warm, creative woman.
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Oh, how I wish I had started with zero expectations! Lucky you 🙂
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I liked your post about the movie with Sam Neill, Yvette! My American college roommate is a physician in NZ, and I got to visit her there on the south island. Gorgeous country!
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I like your attitude about writing. Love your book cover. I will give your book a shout out on my Substack page. Wishing you great success with your new release!!
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Thanks for spreading the word and complimenting my cover, Janet! Props to my cover designer, Coreen Montagna. Best wishes over on Substack.
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PS Janet, I’m having trouble finding your blog. Would you provide the URL?
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You can’t please everybody and that’s pretty much a proven fact. Especially where it comes to writing. And sticking with what you’re doing is key. Forge ahead and forget about the negativity.
Lee
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Thanks for the encouragement, Arlee.
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Congrats on your book and best of luck on launch day!
I publish wide because I don’t shop on Amazon myself. Once you get your wide accounts set up, it isn’t so intimidating. For D2D, I use their automatic print cover set up from the ebook cover and they format my interior files.
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Thanks, Allie! My designer and I realized I was using the wrong size file, so I’m hoping my second try will be more fruitful with D2D. But if not, I’ll use your suggestion with the ebook file. 🙂
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Best wishes with your new release! The 14th is going to be a busy day for both of us. 😀
Ha! ‘m also fellow fan of curse words.
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Curse words RULE. But I used too many of them in my last book, so I strived not to use any in Low Water! I hope we both rock it out on Friday.
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